“Why do you write?”

Amid my deep dive into writing, I often encounter the question: "Why do you write?" Surprisingly for many, my response is rooted in self-reflection—I write to internalize the lessons I'm learning.

My current exploration into the leadership/followership paradox for my doctoral research at Trevecca Nazarene University brings me back to "The Kingmaker," one of my earlier books on this theme. Reflecting on the narrative, while there are several insights, I've extracted three profound life lessons to consider.

CULTIVATE TRUST WITH CARE: "The Kingmaker" portrays trust as a vital currency in life's transactions. It’s imperative to differentiate between those truly in your corner and those who merely seek advantage. Cultivating an inner circle of trustworthy confidants provides support and protection against emotionally draining, one-sided relationships. Side note: there are three circles of trust that I am noticing; more on that in a future post.

SET HEALTHY BOUNDARIES: In "The Kingmaker," the protagonist's story is a testament to the necessity of firmly established boundaries rather than the elusive quest for balance. The allure of marketplace success can sometimes be a deceptive educator, teaching us that relentless work yields rewards while neglecting the toll it takes on our well-being. Boundaries guide us, but the conscious prioritization of our values shapes our daily lives. Self-awareness and time management play supporting roles, allowing us to navigate with intention. This tailored approach—reinforced by self-reflection and support—crafts a mosaic of boundaries that flex with life's changing rhythms. Recognizing that actual achievement is not merely a tally of professional conquests but the sum of our life’s experiences within the limits we set is vital.

UPHOLD YOUR ETHICS: At the heart of "The Kingmaker" is the pivotal role of ethics in leadership and followership. Adhering to one's moral compass is essential in the relentless quest for influence. Remember, the legacy you leave is shaped not by your triumphs alone but by the values reflected in your choices.

For me, pausing to consider the significant lessons from my path often brings unexpected clarity in moments of uncertainty. My writing, in essence, provides a window into my personal journal. For those looking for a read transcending mere storytelling and serving as a study subject, I recommend the "Maker Series" or my recent "Morning Tea Series."

ONWARD!